Brenda Schmitz, a real guardian Angel.

Brenda Schmitz RIP Death Cancer Letter Christmas Wish Respectance #RIP

Brenda Schmitz

“Hello my name is Brenda Schmitz. When you are in receipt of this letter i will have already lost my battle to ovarian cancer.”

These are the words Brenda started her letter to her husband, 4 children and her husband’s new wife with. Brenda’s final wish before she died was to mail a very special letter to a local radio station the moment her husband David had moved on in his life. Brenda really wanted her husband to find a new lovely wife to share his life with.

Brenda asked for three special gifts in the local radio station’s Christmas wish program. First was a day or weekend full of pampering for the new woman in David’s life, because she deserves it.

“Being a step-mother to all those boys and especially giving lil’ Max a “mothers love” that only she can give.”

For the family- a magical trip somewhere where they all can enjoy their company and companionship as a family and create those memories that will be with them forever.

And finally for the cancer doctors at Mercy Hospital and nurses of 8 south. A night out full of drinks, food and fun for all they do everyday for cancer patients they encounter.

This must have been a very special Christmas gift.

Watch the video with her husbands emotional reaction here:

#RIP 2013

Infographic 2013

Death by numbers

First subject on the infographic is the overall death facts of 2013. For example, did you know that last year 56.608.240 people have died, including 5.003.573 because of smoking?  Some very shocking facts you’ll never think about until you’re confronted.

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Besides that, there’s a list of the most discussed deaths in 2013. Unfortunately, this list contains some actors and actresses who died way too young, But also inspirational leader Nelson Mandela who is featured on this.

Death tweets

People sent out lots of tweets the moment they heard Nelson Mandela died, but did you they sent out a total of 7.4 million tweets? With a peak of 95.000 created tweets per minute?  This means Twitter published 1.583 tweets about Mandela per second in the first hour after he died.

Nelson Mandela RIP

Even dead people earn money; you can see this in the best earning dead celebs section. Elvis Presley’srelatives still earn about 55 million dollars a year. Michael Jackson’s relatives earn even more; about 160 million dollars a year.

#RIP

Death is an increasingly popular topic on the social media. Let’s take a look at the 24h social #RIP facts. The hashtag #RIP is used over 40.000 times a day on different social media platforms. Twitter users most often use #RIP. Twitter publishes about 17.280 tweets containing #RIP a day followed by Facebook who publishes about 14.400 posts containing #RIP a day. Last place is for Instagram, who publishes about 8.620 photos containing #RIP a day

RIP Stats

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Dearly missed in November

This November coverphoto contains the following people who are dearly missed. Share your memories on their tributes.

Joe Frazier 11/7 visit his tribute: http://bit.ly/16zublX

Stieg Larsson 11/9 visit his tribute: http://bit.ly/184lLjR

Wilma Rudolph 11/12 visit her tribute:http://bit.ly/1a2voCx

James Coburn 11/18 visit his tribute:http://bit.ly/172jLO8

Robert Altman 11/20 visit his tribute:http://bit.ly/Hqpy43

John F. Kennedy 11/22 visit his tribute:http://bit.ly/184oOZ2

Larry Hagman 11/23 visit his tribute:http://bit.ly/16zB3iZ

Freddie Mercury 11/24 visit his tribute:http://bit.ly/18SgzPe

Leslie Nielsen 11/28 visit his tribute:http://bit.ly/1iGX8yB

Natalie Wood 11/29 visit her tribute:http://bit.ly/16zBBpb

Evel Knievel 11/30 visit his tribute: http://bit.ly/1eawFfb

Drugs aren’t innocent!

On Saturday August 31, a twenty year old Dutch girl called Lisa, went to a party and took a fingertip of MDMA. This led to water intoxication and eventually led to her death. Her life ended at Wednesday September 4th after a cardiac arrest.

More than eighty percent of the Dutch people use drugs at festivals. That’s what became clear to Lisa’s parents when they had spoken with Lisa’s friends and other youngsters.

Drugs are cheap

The reason for the use of hard drugs is the low price. Using hard drugs is cheaper than drinking alcohol. A pill only costs 3 Euros and is easy to get at festivals, because there are a lot of dealers. This makes the use of drugs very popular.

The parents of Lisa would like to get attention for what happened. They lost Lisa for nothing. “This death should not have happened” is what they said.

On August 31 Lisa was at Voltt, a Dutch dance festival in Amsterdam. Around 9pm Dutch time, Lisa didn’t feel well and took a cab to her hometown Leiden. A friend of hers stayed at the festival. “In the afternoon, around 5pm she took a fingertip of the MDMA powder which she bought before she went to the festival” is what she said. Lisa had already used MDMA a few times before.

“Lisa didn’t drink any alcohol during the festival” her dad says. “When she got home, her roommates stayed with her. Later that evening her situation became worse. She had to throw up a lot.”

Very thirsty

Her parents and sister think Lisa would have drunk a lot of water when she got home. Being very thirsty is one of the side effects of MDMA. “It’s like your tongue sticking to your palate” learned her sister, after she did research about MDMA on Google.

At September 1 around 4.30pm Lisa’s parents got a phone call from the Leiden University Medical Centre about Lisa being in a coma. The hospital was informed by Lisa’s roommates about her situation. Her condition had become even more worse. Lisa now had foam around her mouth and epileptic like seizures.

Drugs can shut down the kidneys, which stops you from peeing. People who drink a large amount of water, are able to poison their own bodies. A lack of salt causes swelling. The skull of a young person has no extra space in it. A swelling will pressure the brain stern, which can have fatal consequences.

Tuesday morning Lisa was declared brain dead after stopping the ventilation. Lisa was a real families person. Unfortunately she couldn’t become what she wanted to: ,,Rich’’. 

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R.I.P. Lisa 9/4/13

http://www.leidschdagblad.nl/regionaal/leidenenregio/article24448233.ece/Lisa-dood-Denk-na-wat-je-doet

A glimpse into the alternative death industry

Caitlin Doughty, a Los Angeles mortician, is a true champion of the alternative death industry. Today, Northern California is at the heart of the “alternative death industry”, which advocates eco-friendly, coffin-free home burials. In 2011 she founded the Order of the Good Death, an online collective committed to returning death to contemporary American life. Its mission is to cut through anxiety around death, and help people to consider their mortality anew. The interest in death was always there – but just like in any other field, modern technology has advanced the conversation.

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Up to years ago, people kept bodies in their homes for a few days after death. But the corpse has been taken out of our culture, and that’s to the detriment of our relationship with death. Now burial means an embalmed body in a heavy-duty casket with a vault built over it, so that the ground doesn’t settle; basically leaving the body in many layers of denial. Engaging with the corpse is good for us, mentally and emotionally.

In California, options for disposing a loved one’s body are basic; burial, cremation, scientific donation. People make urns shaped like golf clubs, or put ashes in fireworks. That’s not innovation. “I don’t think people realise how limitless our engagement with death could be”.

Doughty is now in the process of setting up her own funeral business, as a freelance death midwife. She wants to consult those close to death, and work with funeral directors to realise the funerary desires of the deceased. Just as a wedding planner guides people through the options for the biggest day of their life, so wants Doughty to show people the possibilities for the biggest day of their death.

As to her own death? She would like to be laid out in the desert to be torn apart by animals. “I would like a wolf to eat my foot, and a vulture to pick at my eyeballs. I would like to be scavenged”, says the straight-faced mortician.

 

Source: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/profiles/death-becomes-her-meet-the-very-modern-mortician-who-champions-cool-funerals-8627550.html

Preservation of Venezuelan leader’s body not easy.

Much as we perhaps would like to; we do simply not live forever…. Even the bodies of famous world leaders like Lenin and Mao Zedong are simply illusions, with a little help from science. Only the caretakers of Hugo Chavez’ body know what they are doing in order to preserve his body.

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If this were in the US, the technique used would be a simple repeat embalming. However, embalming is not meant to preserve a body for eternity, it is merely meant to delay the inevitable process of decay. That would also mean that these bodies need to be injected periodically, in order to keep the tissue moisturized. If that fails, sometimes a face mask is made, which can be placed over the flesh so it looks as if the person just died. And that is where the illusion comes in; we simply do not know if masks are used on the displayed bodies of famous world leaders.

When Mao died in 1976, Chinese doctors weren’t sure how to preserve his body. Eventually they found a formula in a Western journal in a medical library in Beijing. However, they decided to change the formula slightly, with shocking effects. Mao’s face was round as a ball, and his neck was now the width of his head,” Li Zhisui wrote in The Private Life of Chairman Mao, published outside China 18 years after Mao’s death. The team managed to restore Mao to a more normal appearance with hours of careful massage and makeup, he said, but, just in case, a wax copy of the body was readied as a stand-in Permanently staving off decomposition is no easy job.

The interesting question however is why do certain countries go through these great lengths to preserve their former leaders? For Hugo Chaves it is most likely an elevation to the league of communist deities like Lenin and Mao. Better to belong to that club, than to no club at all….

 

Source: http://www.commercialappeal.com/news/2013/mar/09/preservation-venezuelan-leader-hugo-chavezs-body-n/

Green Piece – green in the ground?

Green burials have become a growing trend lately. More and more funeral homes start offering this so called eco-friendly service. A survey conducted by funeral industry publishers Kates-Boylston Publications found that 43 percent of surveyors said they would consider a green burial. 

Judging by the number of material used for burials per year, there is definitely a need. According to Mary Woodsen, a science researcher at Cornell University, an estimated 60,000 tons of steel and 4.8 million gallons of embalming fluid are buried each year. That’s enough material to build eight Eiffel Towers. To give the slowly but gradually growing phenomenon even more kudos, there is now a committee called the Green Burial Council.

 Eco friendly burials use predominantly biodegradable material, or e-coffins. Bodies are wrapped in or placed in a pine coffin and put to rest where they then decompose and become part of the earth. It’s a nice idea to know that your body is able to return to the earth after you are put to rest. While it’s definitely a personal choice, it’s comforting knowing that you can still keep your values, even at the end; dust to dust.

The Green Burial Counsel performs ecological surveys of the cemetery grounds and sets rules that include hand-digging the grave, replacement of the same soil that was dug up, and no vault or cement grave liners. Only biodegradable material is allowed to be buried with the bodies.

 

Source: The Weekender – http://www.theweekender.com/news/greenpiece/511065/GREEN-PIECE-Green-in-the-ground

 

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PuroMarketing Blog Post

PuroMarketing, a Spanish blog about marketing, mentioned Respectance in a blog post about special social networks.

According to them Respectance is a social network for the dead, where people can honor their past away family. That’s essentialy what Respectance is.

Check out the blog post HERE.
It tells us some interesting facts about social networks, for example:

Did you know every second someone creates a profile on LinkedIn?

Sidenote: the blog’s Spanish, so it’s nice to have Google Translate on!

Mourning: the good, the bad and the ugly

Today an agent got shot in a village next to Amsterdam. It was a big shock to all people with their hearts at the right place.

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I watched what happened. The main newspaper in the Netherlands, Telegraaf, wrote an article about this on the front page online. This newspaper is far ahead others, they allow their readers to react to almost all articles they write online. For this reason they will be a winner in the end. The article about this lady cop, got an enormous amount of reactions. More than any other news item. When I write this, it totalled over 800 reactions.

Then the Dutch condolence register, a bit plain but still popular, got an enormous amount of reactions. And among them a very ugly one. This again got picked up by the shockblog Geenstijl. And then people react again to this guy leaving this ugly anti-condolence to this agent.

What a circle, and how interesting to see that people are now fully and visibly involved with everything that is happening. It gives me more trust, that there are many people who think as you do yourself. You feel more understood, if you recognize yourself in these reactions.