Everyone has memories to share, keep them alive forever.

Respectance fully understands that consumer behaviour changes towards death, grief and expressing emotions, and is offering the new way consumers want to interact and engage with death, dealing with a loss, and share that with the people around.


Why should you use Respectance?

Losing a loved one is hard. To help you and let you hold on to memories, you can start a tribute. Dedicate a place online to your loved one. A tribute is free and it is forever. You can also leave memories and keep photos safe.

Whenever you have the need to feel the presence again of your loved one. Just go to the special place with memories and photos on your smartphone.

How easy is Respectance?

You make a special page and become the owner of all memories. Collect all those moments in words and pictures. You can keep it private or share it with friends and family. Together you can keep them alive and always come back and add new moments. You can identify yourself with a mail address or use Facebook to login.

We’re always there to assist you if you need help. You can build the memory as pleases you. Take your time.

What does Respectance bring you?

Starting a tribute is free. You can also sponsor a tribute and increase your options. Respectance is made for use on most computers, tablets and smartphones. You can access your tribute 24/7, whenever you feel the need. Sharing memories and reading and watching the stories of others is a great way to give your loss a place. A place in your heart.

Share your memories,

Kind regards,

The Respectance team

#RIP 2013

Infographic 2013

Death by numbers

First subject on the infographic is the overall death facts of 2013. For example, did you know that last year 56.608.240 people have died, including 5.003.573 because of smoking?  Some very shocking facts you’ll never think about until you’re confronted.

famous deaths 2013

Besides that, there’s a list of the most discussed deaths in 2013. Unfortunately, this list contains some actors and actresses who died way too young, But also inspirational leader Nelson Mandela who is featured on this.

Death tweets

People sent out lots of tweets the moment they heard Nelson Mandela died, but did you they sent out a total of 7.4 million tweets? With a peak of 95.000 created tweets per minute?  This means Twitter published 1.583 tweets about Mandela per second in the first hour after he died.

Nelson Mandela RIP

Even dead people earn money; you can see this in the best earning dead celebs section. Elvis Presley’srelatives still earn about 55 million dollars a year. Michael Jackson’s relatives earn even more; about 160 million dollars a year.


Death is an increasingly popular topic on the social media. Let’s take a look at the 24h social #RIP facts. The hashtag #RIP is used over 40.000 times a day on different social media platforms. Twitter users most often use #RIP. Twitter publishes about 17.280 tweets containing #RIP a day followed by Facebook who publishes about 14.400 posts containing #RIP a day. Last place is for Instagram, who publishes about 8.620 photos containing #RIP a day

RIP Stats

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Thieves Have Found A New Low

A new warning from police about a trend so despicable, even veteran detectives are stunned: Thieves are now using funerals to rob families blind.

It doesn’t get much lower than this: Bands of thieves are targeting families at their most vulnerable. Here’s how it works: When you lose a loved one, you post an obituary in the paper, along with details of the funeral. The criminals know you won’t be home, and that’s when they strike… while you’re at the cemetery.

They are well-planned attacks: Thieves poring through local obituaries, and picking out the homes of grieving relatives.

When you leave for the funeral, the thieves move in. And they are heartless.

It happened to Cindy and Dennis Higdon. Their son Christian was tragically killed. But while they were at his funeral laying him to rest, thieves were ransacking their Kentucky home.

“It’s like, you already felt like you’re at the lowest point you could be and … it’s like I just fell to the ground,” Cindy Higdon said.

Police say the thieves found the family through an obituary in the local newspaper listing their full names, their hometown, and the date and time of the funeral. Investigators say two men, now charged, hit the house during the service, giving them hours to steal everything from expensive jewelry to computers to sentimental items from Christian’s own room.

“They took everything away from us; they put us into another level of low that we didn’t think could ever exist,” Dennis Higdon said.

We said: “You thought you were at the lowest –”

“Yes. Yes. Till we found out there’s still a long way to go.”

And police say it gets even more extreme. Near Seattle: 10 homes burglarized while the families were at funerals. Hundreds of thousands of dollars in possessions stolen.

“It’s heinous,” said lead investigator Margaret Ludwig. “It’s reprehensible.”

Ludwig busted three crooks, now in prison. They were running an obituary crime ring so sophisticated and organized, even seasoned investigators were stunned.

“They had their computers set up to where they would receive email notifications of the new obituaries that were coming into the local paper,” Ludwig told us. “Lots of planning, lots of preparation, a lot of thinking went into how they were going to pull this off.”

For victims who’ve already lost so much, it’s the ultimate invasion.

“It’s like, please, have a heart,” Cindy Higdon said. “I mean, think about the people you’re doing this to, what they’re already going through.”

The family is so traumatized, they’re planning to move out of the house. It just doesn’t feel like home anymore. Police say we can all learn from this, and there are ways to protect yourself.

Here’s the takeaway: If you have to write an obituary, don’t print your full name or your hometown; that makes it easy for criminals to find you. If you can, have a friend or neighbor stay at your house during the funeral to keep an eye on things. And if that’s not possible, park a few cars in your driveway to make it look like someone is home.

Obviously, losing a relative is hard enough, and it’s a shame we even have to think about this. But as we’ve seen, the criminals will stoop to any level to steal from you.


Source: Today

Can I Use My Phone During a Funeral?

A recent study by Co-operative Funeralcare in the UK under 2,000 people over 18 who had attended a funeral, found that funerals considered to be the most inappropriate function where a mobile phone may be used. Second and third were weddings and while driving. However one in six people actually do use their phone during a funeral anyway. Apparently even the Duchess of York was caught texting while attending Margaret Thatcher’s funeral.

 The study also showed that 40 percent of the respondents would not turn off their phone, albeit that a third of that sets their phone to silent. Most however claim they have left their phone on inadvertently, much like people forget to switch off while on a plane. One in six people also said they had seen people (frantically and embarrassed) trying to switch off their phone once it rang.

 In a different study, under funeral directors, it became apparent that one in five funerals gets interrupted by a mobile phone ringing. One ironic anecdote said the ringtone was “If You Are Happy and You Know it Clap Your Hands”.David Collingwood, operations director of Co-operative Funeralcare, said the use of mobiles had “become commonplace at events which would have been considered unthinkable only a few years ago. We are witnessing a cultural shift in society’s stance on funeral etiquette “.


It seems like we have double standards when it comes to using our phones at seemingly inappropriate moments and functions.

Source: The Guardian

What Does The Law Say About Obtaining Access To A Dead Family Member’s Facebook Profile?

What Does The Law Say About Obtaining Access To A Dead Family Member’s Facebook Profile?

What if the bereaved feel entitled to a deeper closure, specifically, by seeking answers from or access to a dead family member’s Facebook profile? The short answer: Their chances aren’t good.


Families like the Stassens have entered legal battles with major companies like Facebook and Google in an attempt to gain access to the digital assets of dead loves ones. As heirs of their son’s estate, the parents of Benjamin Stassen feel they have a right to access his Facebook account, to search for clues as to why their son suddenly chose to commit suicide.

In the U.S., property rights vary wildly across the country’s 50 states and territories, and are largely dependent on a person’s location of residency. These laws cover the scope of many types of property: real property (e.g., real estate and housing), personal property (e.g. automobiles, tools, clothing) and intangible property — in other words, “things that have value and can be transferred from one person to another, but has no physical substance, like IP rights,” says David Ervin, intellectual property attorney and partner at the law firm Kelley Drye.

To complicate matters further, state-determined property rights can quickly enter a gray area when a resident has entered into a contract with another person or company. In this case, Facebook’s terms of service can impact an individual’s legal right to transfer web property, even after death.


Full article HERE on connectingdirectors.com

Why Online? The Future of the Funeral Business

Why online? Simply stated, the future is online. We all know the Internet can be overwhelming for first-time users. It is typical to think, “How do I find what I want? This is too much!” Butit is not as difficult as you might think.


Getting Referrals

Funeral directors know the traditional venues for referrals including affiliate advertisement, newspaper ads, yellow page marketing and word-of-mouth. Nevertheless, funeral directors also know the market is changing. There was a time when three generations of the same family would choose the same funeral director and services. Now, familiesdo not even live in the same town and many do not even live in the same country. People often communicate with family and friends online. How is this done in a way that is easier to handle than a string of impersonal group emails? The answer is social-networking websites like Myspace and Facebook.


Social Networking vs. Regular Website

You may be thinking, “I already have a website.” However, while they may appear similar, a personal website and a social networking site are not the same thing. Your website is like your home, it is a one-stop destination created by you and focused on you. A social networking site is different. Here we are talking about a community where visitors who care about a particular issue share stories and connect. A social networking site is like a virtual town square.

Does it not make more sense to promote yourself in the town square, than it does to try to invite everyone in the entire town over to your place for coffee?

Yourwebsite is probably great and its purpose is to provide visitors with an extended menu of your services, but you need to remember that many social networking sites have larger audiences than newspapers or televisionshows.

There are over 200 million MySpace members with the average member age being 35-years-old. In 2007, 12 percent of all time spent on the Internet in the United States was spent on MySpace (approximately 53,000 years). The numbers do notlie – you need to be where the people are.


Where You Come In

Let online communities know what you have to offer. Do not expect clients to come to you. Take the step in getting to them and they will pay attention. For example, take Lies Kroes in Holland. After her death, family members created an online tribute and listed the website address in theobituary and funeral invitations. Family members and friends in the Netherlands and the UnitedStatesleft condolences, shared memories and connected over huge distances. To date, the group has posted 21 memories, 116 photographs, and six videos – and they keep returning to make updates. How much time do you think it would take for you to add over 100 photos, six videos and 21 separate blocks of text to your website? In many cases, that is more than a standard site would even allow for.

As a funeral service provider, you can sponsor tributes like Lies’, establish goodwill with hundreds of friends and family members, and the only info you have to provide to produce these living memorials is your logo and contact info. It is really simple, and the best part is that years after someone has passed away, you remain the host of a 24-hour memorial where family members can celebrate someone they love.


Tips on Getting Started

  1. Look for social-networking sites that are appropriate. Communities connected to obituaries, grief support, funeral services, and memories/tributes are the most suitable.
  2. Do not be a wall flower; get involved in the community. Write a weekly post, run a contest, ask a daily question, provide links to your favorite articles and comics or simply email people you find interesting. Connections are key to growing your referrals.
  3. Drill down. If you specialize in military memorials, join a military memorial group. If you only operate in Columbus, then only speak to people from Ohio. Your time is valuable, be smart with who you engage.
  4. Offer online memorials as an added service to obituary listings. If you are placing an obituary, consider also offering a tribute page using the same info. This is a great way to engage family members.
  5. Make your clients your advocates. Encourage them to provide the link to your tribute pages on their funeral invitations and obituaries. This is a nice way for those who can not attend the funeral to leave their condolences, pictures and videos. When they visit the site, they will also be able to see that it was you who provided this great service in the first place.

To help our funeral homes and chapels that we are working with, we have created very nicely designed, quality handouts.

If you would like to order some for your funeral home, to help grieving families on their way to create a lasting memorial, please contact Mansha Thapa at mansha@respectance, phone number : 415-398-2595

Also to sign up and get access to all the tools and be found on the internet with the specialized services your funeral home provides, go to http://www.respectance.com/join/business